Dealing with Infertility
Infertility is a long-term and emotionally exhausting problem. This time is the most stressful for a couple. Dealing with number of treatments and uncertainties leads to the depression. It takes long time to learn how to cope with your grief. But the most important thing you need to learn is that there is a hope and, one way or another, infertility can be conquered. Nowadays, there are a lot of options like IVF or surrogacy, or even adoption that can help you to become parents. There are some stages you cannot jump over, don’t try to miss it, leaving the emotions locked can bring you to the negative affect in the future. Therefore, you need a plan.
Let yourself to feel grief and angriness, give yourself a permission to cry and scream if you feel it. You need some time to face your struggling and accept it. Don’t blame yourself or your partner, you are both in the same boat. It will be difficult and emotional journey, so let yourself deal with it on this stage. You are not the iron lady and do not pretend to be the one. You have all rights to feel all these negative things, and there is nothing to be ashamed of. You should be honest with yourself and your partners, only in this way you will be able to move forward. Take your time to grieve over.
For the last period, helplessness and uncertainty about the future became the integral part of you. And the best way to cope with it is the knowledge. It is time to make a research on infertility options and find alternatives. It is a good idea to make Plan A and Plan B, so if Plan A would not work, you would not come back to the first stage, where the emotions can have the control over you. Find as many solutions and alternatives as possible, it will give you time and plan of actions.
ASK FOR HELP
Now, when you have the options and plans, there is a good time to find support. You can be sure, that you are not the only one who is broken with your infertility struggle. In social media you can find a lot of IP support groups, where you can find not only a support, but the good advice as well. Also, there are a lot of non-profit organizations, where the experienced people are gathered and they can offer you some help or at least focus you on some directions, which is not bad.
FIND POSITIVE REVIEWS
Making the research, I do believe you found a lot of solutions and for positive thinking you will need the reviews from the experienced couples, who successfully coped withy infertility. Of course, you need to be prepared for the possibility of negative reviews and experience. Sometimes, if people did not relieve their stress, pain, angriness before the beginning of their journey, they continue to feel it during the whole process and even having positive outcome, they still feel unhappy. We recommend you focus on positive reviews as it helps you to leave the fears and make the efforts to move forward.
There are a lot of agencies, which can offer you a support. There is a sense to make list of agencies you like and contact them. Before that, you have read many reviews and know that all agencies offer more or less the same programs. There is a time to listen to your intuition and believe the first impression. Do not compare yourself with other couples, you have your own journey and your own story.
Psychologists, who have experience with infertility treatment can be extremely helpful and supportive. They can teach you how to cope with emotional impact associated with infertility and medical treatment, which can be incredibly stressful and painful. It is good if agency you chose can offer you a specialist who knows the stages of your treatment and can work through it accordingly. Good therapist will help you to sort out your feelings and find the ways to relieve the stress as well as to find the sources where you can get the emotional power.
CARE ABOUT YOURSELF
We can talk about different plans and options, help and support, but there is one thing in common, you should take care of yourself. The whole process of infertility treatment can be overwhelming, and it is especially important to focus on yourself. If you feel that it is too much for you, take a time for yourself, act in a way it is best for you. The happier you are, the better outcome is. Anyway, remember, that your dreams will definitely come true, just it will take more time for happiness.